October 9, 2013

  • Confessions

    I have been racked with guilt all week.

    I have deceived my wife.

    Last weekend I told her I was going down to camp to work, but I lied.

    I went to camp all right, but I didn't work. Instead I took a long nap on Saturday and then another one on Sunday.

    I don't know what I should do. I am afraid she might find out and then she won't let me go to camp all by myself ever again.

    What do you think I should do?

    Should I come clean and just tell her the truth, or should I just keep it to myself?

Comments (23)

  • Take me with you next time and I'll do the work AND I'll keep my mouth shut about the nap.

  • Wife: Hi John, how was the camping trip? Did you get a lot done?
    John: (Looks sheepish)meh! you know how it is. The drive to the camp was exhausting. The traffic a killer.
    Wife: So you got some work done while you were there? Did you take care of that fence (insert any other thing you want to take care of)?
    John: Pfffttt! fence shmence! I was in God's country, and He told me I looked peeked, and needed to rest. So I listened to Him, and rested.
    End of the story!

  • Why do you have to be working in order to camp? Camping is like a guy's right.

  • If you're telling her to relieve your own conscious, you're only compounding selfishness. Remember the guilt and don't do it next time.

  • Come clean--she'll understand. Maybe she took a nap while you were gone. ;-)

  • I took the unwritten, unspoken oath to all men, my lips are sealed :)

  • Tell her. Then offer her a weekend to go and take time for herself.

  • Take Dad to camp on the weekend of the 19th and I won't tell her how deceitful you have been..

  • Tell her.....She'll probably laugh it off.....

    After all....Camping is for rest, relaxing, and having a little time to hike, or what have you.

    You went to the camp, and relaxed, instead of working, and now you feel guilty, so tell her what you actually did.....

  • As some others have suggested, tell her because you feel the burden of guilt. You are not apologizing or confessing a wrongdoing, you are choosing to share of yourself.

    If you haven't yet had this conversation, I think it would be great to include in it that you need the time for yourself, just for a few moments. That it's good for you, and because of that, it's good for your relationship. Ask her if there is anything she'd like to do for herself but hasn't lately, and encourage her to also make herself a priority. Even if only for a few moments.

    It's hard for most of us women to do that, we're too busy nurturing the needs of others. To be encouraged by you would be a blessing. And in the end, perhaps you'll get your camp naps and come home to an equally refreshed wife who took the moment for herself, too.

  • See : Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; 1 Corinthians :-)

  • I would tell her because what is more innocent and sane than a good nap ? :-)
    In friendship
    Michel

  • Uh oh. I have a feeling she knew. Wives are kind of like that.

  • I'll bet she already knows. :-)

  • You can always tell her - if and when you decide to. Now if your deception will hurt her or your marriage then you have some big issues that go beyond taking a nap in the woods... if you just took a nap for 2 days then maybe you need a check up - make an appointment.

  • if she says,"did you get a lot done?" just answer with ,"not as much as I wanted to."
    LOL

  • Telling her will eliminate your guilt -- except over not telling her sooner. Everybody needs some "me-time," and the camp provided you with that last weekend. Now, the other problem is getting the work done that you intended to do last weekend -- if you don't tell her now, she'll find out next time at the camp; if you do, you'll have to go again and get the work done!

  • They main problem is that you feel guilty. The Bible calls this 'Dealer's Choice.' If something seems wrong to you--it is.

    The question is why are you having to do this. I do not tell my wife everything because I fear her emotional outburst. It is easier just playing it safe.

    If you cannot deal with the guilt, then you have to be ready to explain to her why you do it.

    Besides, this is not a Biggie. You are not heating on her. The other solution is just telling her that you are going to the camp to rest and would she like to come. If you do not want her to come, Why? Be ready to discuss that with her.

    I take 15 minute sneak breaks all of time. I like to be alone and my wife likes to be in control.

    I am OK with my deception---not a Biggie.

    If you can feel OK forget it.

    My opinion.

    Blessings,

    frank

  • Don't tell anyone. Keep it secret.

  • Hoo tough dilemma. The best way to resolve a dilemma is to take a nap.

  • Ha! I love the "talk to Frank" comment! I was thinking that myself! :-D

    I say, "Come clean"...then clean the house for her! The WHOLE house!!! :-)

    If you come clean you will feel better. And...hey...she probably WON'T be surprised to hear about your naps...I imagine she knows you VERY well! :-)

    HUGS!!! :-)
    PS...she might send to camp by yourself more often! ;-) :-D

  • lol - Talk to Frank. ;-)

  • unless she specifically asks you what you did I would just keep my mouth shut =| a little guilt never killed anyone...or did it?

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